Monday, August 11, 2008

Can it REALLY be 13 Years?!

Surely not! 1995 seems like just yesterday. He's the hunk with his nose stuck in his Greek, German, Hebrew, and various philosophical books--discovering the power of thought and questioning ALL inconsistencies. She's the one traveling the world, dancing in the rain, and laughing at the moon (how dare any sky ornament suggest it's time for sleep). As friends, we witnessed one another's disastrous relationships for years before considering making a go of it together. But what we both wanted to know was: Can good long-term friends eventually really make good lovers?

One thing I still find interesting today is the conversation Lee had with one of our mutual friends before asking me out on a real date. When he told him the he was interested in me, he was met with, "Nooooo. Not Shaye!" Our concerned friend warns him about me. Sure, I'm fun, but in a relationship I'm often ambivalent--it will likely be impossible to tie me down. I am untamed and cannot be broken. Good thing for me (and most definitely for him), Lee didn't intend to tame me, at all. He was looking for more of what we already had--friendship. We both wanted companionship and a partner that complimented each of our own strengths and weaknesses. And that, my friend, is something I believe we do quite well. So while I must say that our dear friend wasn't wrong about me--I was everything he confessed me to be--I'm so glad Lee took the chance on that first date, after all.

It's impossible to share with you how I've grown to love and admire this man. Part of me wants to break out into song or share some lengthy poem while another part wants to say something sweetly childish like, "He's the BOMB!" Through thirteen years, you do face a great many things in life. Some are painful. Some are delightfully pleasant. I'm so glad we've faced all of those thing together. I don't want to dwell on how very different my life would have been without his love and friendship. It's rescued me more often than I'd like to admit.

And for those who don't already know the answer to our early question above: Yes, long-term friends really DO make the best lovers. Try it. You'll like it.


Funny story for my children when they're older: Just weeks before our wedding, we went to Olan Mills to get some engagement pictures taken. In one of the poses, the photographer put me on the table on my back and had your daddy positioned over me, looking down at me longingly. We were both a bit uncomfortable, not even sure where to look, but we were laughing, nevertheless. As the photographer goes back to his camera to snap the picture, your daddy hollers out last minute, "WAIT! Is her father going to see this?!" Needless to say, we didn't purchase that picture, but I think I may have a proof of it somewhere in my boxes of pictures. I still giggle when I think about that moment. LOL

4 ♥ thoughtful comments ♥:

Laureen said...

YAY!!!!!! Congrats, you two!

Jason and I have a similar "warning off" story. A mutual friend, on hearing that we were becoming "a thing" shrieked "that's like nitro dating glycerin and can't possibly be a good thing!"

Here's to many many more fabulous years together...

Mom said...

Shannon, I loved your blog today! I am, as your mama, so happy that you and Lee found each other and that you have worked through all those little challenges married couples face. It's work, yes. But so worth it.

I love you both, am very proud of you, and hope that today is a beautiful one, with lots of sharing, and lots of happy thoughts about THE day 13 years ago!!!

You were a gorgeous bride -- and just remembering your coming down the aisle wearing my wedding dress, now yours, makes it all the more special ... not to mention the fact that your handsome daddy (who never saw the picture you mentioned in your blog) lovingly did the wedding. :-)


Lee said... "blogger" thing says to leave my comment...but i worry...if i "leave" my comment on some thing called "blogger" does it cease to be my comment...does it become "blogger's" - can blogger "accept" the comment I "leave"?, well, if people will be reading this I guess I should say, honey! Oh, well that's probably not enough...hmm...I love you, honey! More on that later...after the's a secret...I'm not telling...

I'm such a nerd. No, really, much as I am a word-man, I think thirteen years, three children, and the lengthy massage you received the other night says it all, right? Now if only I could get all those involved to bring Firefly back...that'd be something, huh? I guess you'll have to settle for Alias! I love you!

Ronna said...

Congrats on 13 years!!
Way to go!!

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